21/05/2026
When I was a FitPro, on Wednesday nights after teaching three back-to-back classes in Nottingham, my husband would pick me up for the drive home to Derbyshire 🏡
And every Wednesday night, I’d brace myself before getting in the car 🚗
Because I knew what his first question would be:
“How many did you get?”
It would trigger me every single time 😩
And, I want you to know: this isn’t about my husband. Literally ANYONE could’ve asked me that question and I’d have felt the same way. A client. A friend. A colleague. It didn’t matter!
Because what it was triggering wasn’t my evening. It was my self-worth 🤔
Here’s the plot twist though: those Wednesday night clients paid me a monthly fee. I got paid EXACTLY the same amount - whether two people showed up or twenty! 🤷♀️
But somewhere along the way I’d built up a belief that my classes had to be busy for me to be worthy 🤗
On those quieter nights, when someone innocently asked how many showed up, something in me would quietly panic. I’d lie and round the number up. I’d make it sound better than it actually was. I’d do whatever I needed to do to avoid feeling like a failure ❌
Not to impress anyone. To PROTECT myself from feeling like I wasn’t enough 🦺
If you’re a fitness instructor and you’ve ever felt your mood rise and fall with your class numbers, your booking rates, or your retention — I want you to know that I see you 👀
I’ve been there. Standing in a church hall with two clients, going through the motions, whilst quietly and deeply worrying about what it said about me that more people hadn’t shown up 🗣️
It was never a business problem. It was never a marketing problem. It was never a teaching problem. It was never even a class problem…
It was a self-worth problem 😧
If this resonated with you, this is exactly the kind of thing we work through together inside Validate Yourself. Drop me a message with the word VALIDATE to find out more ⬆️
