10/09/2026
My Grandpa used to say, “There’s an ass for every seat.” What he meant was simple and true: if you’re good at what you do, never let that gift swell into ego. Ego doesn’t just stall growth, it hardens the heart. It turns gifted people bitter and resentful.
The day we start believing the work cannot go on without us, we have quietly become part of the problem. I have felt that way. I was wrong. The mission does not pause because our feelings are bruised or we feel overlooked.
Real change begins the moment we choose to speak and to listen, when every voice is given room to be heard. Yesterday at D&L a small team sat down because the weight of death-care work had begun to show. In just a few hours the room shifted. The team stood taller. Leadership stood clearer.
That is the work that matters. That is how we stay worthy of the seats we occupy.