11/05/2026
What does a broke 15th-century duke have to do with modern relationships? 🏰 Turns out, his fatal mistake is one people are STILL making today, and it leads to total emotional bankruptcy.
We're often told to diversify our investments to avoid risk. It’s smart financial advice! But what happens when we apply that same "portfolio theory" to our hearts? 💔 I see it all the time: people subtly 'hedging their bets' in their most important relationships, keeping other emotional connections on the back-burner, just in case. They think they’re being smart and protecting themselves, but they’re actually making a disastrous miscalculation that neuroscience proves is DEEPLY destructive to real trust and intimacy! It's a strategy that doesn’t just fail; it leads to a spectacular kind of collapse... one that a duke named Friedrich "with the Empty Pockets" learned the hard way six centuries ago. He tried to be everything to everyone and ended up bankrupt, alone, and with a lesson for the ages.
This isn't just a history lesson; it's a critical wake-up call for anyone in a long-term relationship who feels things are off.
Have you ever seen this "diversification" mindset play out in a relationship, or felt it yourself? Share your thoughts below!
I break down the shocking history, the brain science, and how to avoid winding up with "empty pockets" in my latest blog post. The full guide is in the comments! 👇