23/03/2026
"I should have insisted that we do this a long time ago"
After her husband passed away, our client continued to live in a complex that was rapidly deteriorating. It had been home for over 15 years after they made the move to Johannesburg from the coast. She was full of anxiety: afraid to look out her lounge window at night, afraid to make the decision to move, afraid to try to pack, afraid to decide what to throw away. All this emotion weighed very heavily on her.
A cousin gave her the support to finally make the decision to move to a retirement village, and the village suggested she contact Transition Solutions to assist her with the move. It was obvious that "Emma's" deep-seated fears and anxieties over the years had led to a total inability to discard anything in case it would be needed in the future. Over two days, and with care and empathy, our team were able to sort out what would be needed in the new apartment to allow comfortable living, what the items were that brought joy and ignited pleasant memories, what needed to be donated, and what should be dumped. "Emma" was aghast at the volume of stuff that was donated to a charity and designated to the dump. “Is that really all our stuff!! Where was it stored!”
On day three the truck was packed and we unpacked her in her new 1,5 bedroom 1st floor apartment – curtains and windows open, fellow residents popping in to say hello and offer tea or coffee. Emma virtually changed in those few hours! She accepted tea and said hello to all; being more in command, and even suggesting that we leave some boxes behind so she could donate further items to the charity so she could free up some of her living space of the small bits and pieces that she had clung to.
“I should have insisted that we do this a long time ago, whilst my husband was still alive and able to assist. But he was so against moving!”
And yes, there was a garage of mystery stuff – all taken care of and keys handed to the estate agent.
With aging, we recommend moving to a place where you are surrounded by people of your own generation. This offers a unique sense of comfort, camaraderie and shared understanding, largely because you share a common historical timeline, bond over shared experiences and, dare I say, aching joints!
If you would like to discuss, please give us a call.